For those of us in recovery, it’s certainly nice to get positive feedback from our “normie” friends and family members. But, there are definitely several things we hear over and over that just get old. There are also those curious people who, perhaps without realizing it, ask some pretty intrusive questions when we tell them we’re in recovery. Here are 10 things people in recovery are sick of hearing.
Things People in Recovery Are Sick of Hearing: “What drugs did you do? For how long?”
This is probably the most common question we hear. I get it, you’re curious. But me telling you what I was using and for how long doesn’t really mean anything. Why are you asking? To gossip? Do you want to feel shocked? Because, you probably will be. Just saying.
Things People in Recovery Are Sick of Hearing: “So, what’s the worst thing you’ve ever done?”
This is probably the second most common question we get. Again, are you looking for some kind of scandalous, twisted tale of dark-alley goings-on? Well, yeah, for some of us, our addiction definitely took us to some really messed up places. But, as a normie, you just wouldn’t understand. I can’t help but feel judged when I divulge some of the sordid details of my story to people who aren’t recovering alcoholics and addicts. I have no problem telling my sober brothers and sisters because, well, they totally understand. Telling a normie about the f*cked up sh*t that I may or may not have done (*wink, wink*) is guaranteed to raise some eyebrows and drop some jaws. I’m not your movie entertainment for the night, folks.
Things People in Recovery Are Sick of Hearing: “Why did you start using drugs?”
Aye yai yai…you want to play therapist with me right now? This one is a pretty personal one. Sometimes, the answer quite simply is: “I liked getting high; I liked how it felt.” And for many of us, there’s a lot of stuff we worked through in treatment and/or therapy and we’re probably still working through it. How about this answer: “oh, why did I use drugs? It was because of ‘nunya’…nunya bidness.” Deal with it.
Things People in Recovery Are Sick of Hearing: “But, you can like have one drink, though, right?”
Ughhh. No. no, I can’t. But thanks for asking. This one is too much to explain. It depends on whether or not I have the time/patience/concern to answer this one fully and whether or not I care enough about the person who is asking.
Things People in Recovery Are Sick of Hearing: “It’s that guy/girl you were dating. They are the problem.”
I really can’t stand this one. Usually we hear this from a parent or a close friend who just wants someone to blame for our transgressions with drugs and alcohol. Yes, I definitely had “using buddies” and, I’m sorry to break it to you but, I was getting high before I met so-and-so. And, ultimately, it was my choice to start drinking and drugging.
Things People in Recovery Are Sick of Hearing: “Your life must be borrringgggg.”
Actually, my life is one-thousand-times better now that I’m not strung out, dope sick, and looking for my next fix. Thank you very much. Getting sober and living clean has allowed me to really enjoy life. And, I know it seems hard to understand but, having a good time doesn’t have to revolve around drugs and alcohol.
Things People in Recovery Are Sick of Hearing: “I’ve seen drug addicts. You don’t look like an addict.”
Ok, not even sure what this means. But I can tell you that I know what I’m talking about when I say that I’m a recovering drug addict. What exactly does a drug addict look like, anyway? I guess I should (still) be living in a dumpster somewhere? I’m pretty sure this is meant to be a compliment so, it’s easier to just say “thank you” and change the subject.
Things People in Recovery Are Sick of Hearing: “I’ve done drugs, too. It’s about self-control.”
Self-control and will-power – two terms I really can’t stand hearing. Again, it depends on who it is saying this to me whether or not I tear off their heads. That is all.
10 Things People in Recovery Are Sick of Hearing: “I’m so glad that I don’t have a problem.”
Uh…thanks? I guess this is compliment. Maybe?
10 Things People in Recovery Are Sick of Hearing: “Are you addicted to meetings now?”
Shut up. Just shut up.
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