Having once been in love with someone can cloud our perception of whether it’s time to say good-bye or to try to work things out. But, you’ll know when it’s time to break up. Follow that gut feeling if you sense something is wrong. You know each other well, or at least you used to, and you know when something is wrong — it’s this same something that tells you the whole thing has run its course. By paying attention to the most obvious signs that it’s time to move on, you can honor both yourself and your partner and give both of you the biggest gift of all: The freedom to find a love that’s meant to last.
Here are 5 signs it’s time to stop bailing water out of that sinking ship of a relationship.
Signs It’s Time to Break Up: It Hurts More than it Feels Good
A happy, healthy love feels good most of the time. Sure, even good relationships include an argument every now and then, but if you feel sad, mad, or anxious more of the time than not, it’s a clear sign this isn’t the right relationship for you.
Signs It’s Time to Break Up: What You Used to Love is Now Annoying Change in perception
Opposites attract and in the beginning they can create hot chemistry. But over time, those differences can breed contempt. Remember how you used to think those little quirks and idiosyncrasies were the cutest thing ever and endearing? Now when you look at your partner, all you see are their ugly qualities – physical or otherwise and it drives you crazy. If you can’t see past their normal faults, it’s another sign it’s time to break up.
Signs It’s Time to Break Up: You’d Rather Be Somewhere, Anywhere Else
At the start of a romance, you want to be together all of the time. You text and call constantly and spend every available moment together. While it’s normal for that to die down after the honeymoon period and start to reintroduce your other interests, if you find you just feel apathetic about being together, that’s a red flag. Apathy about your partner is worse than having heated fights, because there’s no passion or intense feelings, only boredom – the death of any relationship.
And you find yourself yearning for independence and having a resentment toward your significant other because you feel obligated to spend time with them. All you want to do is go out with your friends or even stay late at work just so you don’t have to spend any more time together than is absolutely necessary.
Signs It’s Time to Break Up: You’ve Developed a Wandering Eye
When you’re really into someone, you naturally only have eyes for them. It’s as if there’s no one else for you out there. If suddenly your barista is looking sexy, you’re making excuses to talk to the cute co-worker in the next cubicle, or you’ve accepted a lunch offer from your ex, chances are your heart has become curious about new possibilities.
Signs It’s Time to Break Up: Keeping secrets
The basis of any successful relationship is trust. This means sharing every intimate detail with no lies, no secrets, and no unexpected skeletons. Suddenly, or not-so-suddenly you find yourself, or your partner holding things back. If you feel like you can’t trust your partner with something, it’s clear you no longer feel you can confide in them and it’s time to break up.
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