For addicts and alcoholics, we have come to the understanding that our addiction to drugs and alcohol is only a part of the problem. In fact, a lot of of us have come to the recognition that drugs and alcohol weren’t even part of the problem but were really the solution to our problems. So, what is the problem then? The problem is the discontent, the being irritable, the restlessness, the trying to get outside of ourselves by using people, places or things to make us feel better. Due to this issue, a lot of people suffer from addiction and codependency.
Addiction and Codependency: What is Codependency?
Codependency is defined as a psychological condition or a relationship in which a person is controlled or manipulated by another who is affected with a pathological condition (typically narcissism or drug addiction); and in larger terms, it refers to the dependence on the needs of, or control of, another. It is discomfort with one’s self and not accepting who you are. It is searching for that person to make you feel complete and using people to solve your spiritual disconnect. It is basically like instead of being addicted to drugs and alcohol, you focus your addiction onto another person. It’s relying on another person to make us happy, just like we do with drugs and alcohol.
Addiction and Codependency: Treatment
When suffering from addiction and codependency, there are options for treatment available where you can work on both of these issues at Palm Partners. Treatment is very similar to that of addiction, you would go into a rehab and go through therapy and attend 12-step meetings. There are fellowships called Codependents Anonymous (aka CoDA). In rehab, you can work on these issues separately but it can be difficult taking away your codependency and addiction to drugs and alcohol.
Addiction and Codependency: Codependency and Recovery
Think about it, once you take away our drugs and alcohol it is completely normal that we seek out some other kind of solution and something else to make us feel ‘whole’ again. For a lot of recovering addicts and alcoholics, they end up trying to find their new solution in another person. This is why there are so many rehab romances and they tell you not to get into a relationship in your first year of recovery; because these relationships end up forming for the need of wanting to feel complete and is based on selfishness.
Codependency stems from thinking that you aren’t enough on your own and could include the thought that you don’t have enough love inside of yourself when the reality is that the love inside of you is endless. You already have tons of love inside of yourself and you don’t in fact need someone to fulfill that part of you. We give in order to receive and once you understand all of this you can then begin to give in your relationships and you will want to give to someone a part of the endless love you have, instead of needing to take what love they have for yourself to be okay. If you or a loved one are struggling with codependency, substance abuse or addiction, please call toll free 1-800-951-6135.