Many people have a strong desire to make a “Change for Life.” This need is driven by either an emotional, physical or mental situation for which they believe that change is absolutely necessary. Despite the fact that they know that change is necessary, there can be many things inhibiting them from making those necessary changes. These could include: if the shift or change is perceived to be painful or at least uncomfortable, if changing is believed to be a waste of time or not possible, or if the changes are blocked by their emotional or mental state, causing them to experience anxiety or depression.
As confusing as this may be, even though a positive change could result in good things or even great things, the person can still be blocked from changing by their emotional or mental state. It is very important to recognize that when there is a desire to make a necessary change that it is not necessary to feel strongly toward following through with that change.
It is therefore necessary for a person to completely accept and recognize that, even though they know what is in their best interest to do to change a specific situation such as addiction, they still fail to follow through due to the perceived pain and discomfort that they perceive as associated to making that change.
In the case of the addict or alcoholic, that discomfort and pain is connected to their belief that to leave home, leave their family or to interrupt their current employment is unacceptable at the present time. Many times they lie to themselves or convince themselves that the present time is not the right time to make the decision to make a “Change for Life.”
Simply stated, once a person or a significant other recognizes that a problem such as addiction has reached the point of absolute pain, suffering and intolerance, the person must follow through with that desire and make the decision to change, regardless of how they feel or what they believe.