Everyone knows that there is a mental relapse before you actually physically relapse. There are many signs to tell that you’re headed for a relapse that might not be obvious to you at the time, but are good things to look for in yourself and others that might seem a little bit not-so-spiritual. I’ve thought of 15 signs you’re headed for a relapse.
15 Signs You’re Headed for a Relapse…
1. You think you can use just one more time (I want one more really good high)
2. You’re not going to meetings (I’ve graduated meetings, I’m all done)
3. You’re miserable and depressed (isn’t everybody who’s sober, though?)
4. You don’t have a sponsor (I’m my own sponsor, I know what’s best for me)
5. You isolate and never really leave your house (why would I leave my house?)
6. You consider Netflix to be your therapy (doesn’t watching shows about therapy count?)
7. Your closest supports have become your dogs (they’re the best supports because they always listen)
8. Drinking and getting high actually sounds like a good idea (maybe I’m not an addict or alcoholic…)
9. You’ve been hanging out with old friends who are currently getting high (they’re my friends and I want to be around them)
10. You think that if you just find a boyfriend/girlfriend, then you will be happy and fixed (if I find love, it will solve all my problems)
11. You are constantly mean and angry (it’s cause everyone else is super annoying)
12. You can’t remember the last time you prayed or meditated (who cares, I don’t need to pray and meditate)
13. You think that there is something wrong with everyone else; it’s not you (everyone is pissing me off, I hate people)
14. You’ve been hanging out at bars for the ‘atmosphere’ (it just makes you happy)
15. You’ve contacted your drug dealer or went to the liquor store and bought alcohol (just in case)
Whether these signs apply to you or to a close friend or loved one, you can’t help anyone who doesn’t want to be helped. That is important to remember. It can be so hard watching someone you care about going through the phases of mental relapse and not being able to help them – but unless they are willing to get help, it won’t work.
If you think you may be headed for a relapse, try contacting your supports or your sponsor for help. Even it has been months since you’ve talked to them, they will be happy to hear from you either way. I know it sometimes feels weird to call someone after it’s been awhile, but I know that when I don’t hear from a sponsee for a long time, I am just so happy to talk to them once they do call! Go to a meeting and raise your hand and share that you’re struggling. If you want to be sober and stay in recovery, you have to be willing to go to any lengths to do so. It might end up being uncomfortable and not exactly what you want to be doing, but in the end it will be worth it if you remain sober – trust me! If you or a loved one are struggling with substance abuse or addiction, please call toll free 1-800-951-6135.